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The hypocrisy of the shame of sex workers • Instinct Magazine

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I’m not the type to over-intellectualize sex. We’re all sexually turned on by different things, and that’s our private matter – unless you decide to make it known publicly, as do those who have chosen a career in the adult entertainment industry, aka the adult entertainment industry. sex work.

The term ‘sex work’ itself is multi-faceted, including even nude dancers who cannot engage in sex acts but use their bodies and skillful gyrations to meet their clients just bordering on all. possible fantasies.

Sex is a viable activity for many who use it to earn an income, and while it’s not the path I’ve chosen, I don’t negatively judge those who have. However, as for my sex worker friends, with their best interests at hand, I might ask every now and then, “Are you saving for your retirement?” ”

As for the rest of you, I have discovered over the years a disturbing tendency to shame sex workers, ridicule their lives, and even blissfully laugh at them when faced with difficulties. And yes, for some, these difficulties are caused by drug addiction. That said, with 25 million people in America from diverse backgrounds and professions battling addiction, a methamphetamine-addicted porn artist deserves as much compassion as his opioid-addicted office mate. We should be encouraging them both to win and to improve.

But when it comes to gay men, there seems to be some fun in demeaning sex workers, berating them for their perceived lifestyle, often based on archaic stigma and stereotypes. And what’s so pathetic is that a lot of you are probably laughing at Porn Hub, pulling your noodle on content created by those you don’t care about, and many of you have hired these boys straight from your RentMen page.

So why, a few days ago, when news from OnlyFans banning all sexual content on its platform broke, an almost collective jubilation of gay men flooded social media? The bitchy blows were abundant. I read things like, “It’s time for these bitches to take a reality check” and “Good for them!” and of course, there was no shortage of the default: “Now they’ll have to go and get a REAL job.” “

An adult entertainment artist – the ever popular Julian Torres wants you to know, sex work is his REAL job. Julian earns a significant portion of his income through his OnlyFans account and similar platforms. He responded to the reviews with a personal message of interest to the gay community, wearing only a baseball cap and underwear (admittedly to grab viewers’ attention). In the now widely shared video, Julian informs the public that there are many legislative efforts being made to criminalize sex work and he urges the gay community to lend their support. He further explains why there should be no stigma attached to the services he and his fellow interpreters provide to consumers, like any other service-oriented work.

Perhaps more importantly, however, he asks people not to be judgmental, as he implores them to understand that creating content is real work and sex work. is real work.

Equally popular is Alex Tikas, Julian’s fiancé. Together, they have become two of the most sought-after sex workers in the gay adult entertainment industry. Yet again, as Julian points out, it’s work. What they do requires professional skills like any other, otherwise no one will give you a dime for a job poorly done. There are countless hours in what they do, and not everything involves sex. I mean, yeah, part of their job is to have sex with some of the most beautiful men on the planet – and they do!

But there are real working components, including filming videos, editing, uploading content, and promoting content and managing social media. Plus, they serve as their own talent brokers, negotiating client requests and bookings along with pay and travel expenses to appear at the hottest circuit party events across the country.

Julian Torres and Alex Tikas / Facebook

In a recent Facebook post, Alex, real name Achilles, responds to many negative and shameful comments and denounces the hypocrisy of critical men who watch porn and behave the same way he does in his videos. As he points out, the difference is that he gets paid to do it. Alex makes it very colorfully clear that careers are about finding what you’re good at and monetizing it. This is what he, Julian and their fellow sex workers have all done for the most part. And that begs the question, do all the enemies secretly hold jealousy, wishing it was them whose job came with the freedom to travel all over the world, sexually adventurous with total surrender?

Alex states,

My job is to create adult content – after flipping 14-18 year old burgers – after 6 years of auditioning for your bullshit shows in Paducah, Kentucky then – after 20 years of working behind a desk and bartender on weekends .. the DECISION to create adult content gave me a freedom that propelled me into a life of

1. Zero judgment

2. Zero morality

3. Zero pretension

4. Zero fuck given. ??

You can read his full article here

In the meantime, I would remind everyone to live and let live, and if something is not for you then live your life and let others live theirs. I will also add that if you have ever indulged in self-pleasure, even once watching sex workers do what they do on camera, but then make derogatory remarks about them, that makes you. you a hypocrite of the worst kind. And maybe, just maybe, it’s you who is struggling with an internal conflict with your sexuality and your weird, kinky side.

A few other things to know, prostitution is legal in 56 countries, where the earnings of sex workers are declared and taxed by their government like any other work. According to current statistics, more than 40 million Americans regularly visit pornographic sites. And almost half of all downloads on the Internet are pornographic.

So, before you boys go and bash sex workers and laugh at what they do, check first – because we all know porn doesn’t just watch itself!

Cory E. Barnes

The author Cory E. Barnes

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